One of my favorite outreaches that I am involved in each year is our annual Lee County FCA Super Bowl Party. My wife and I, invite all our local FCA students over to our house for a fun night of watching the big game, funny commercials, and eating lots of good food. As soon as time winds down in the second quarter we turn off the tv and settle the students down for some time in The Word. Each year I make sure to do a full Gospel presentation for students that might not know Christ and also a challenge to those students who have put their faith in Christ. This year will be no different in that all our students will be challenged to examine themselves and where they are in their walk with Christ, and if they have one at all. Please be praying for all our students in the next few days leading up to this outreach that God would already begin working in their hearts and that they would make a decision to fully follow him on Sunday. Also, please be praying for me as I prepare to share a challenge to them from God’s Word. Yes, we are expecting to have fun on Sunday, but most importantly we are expecting God to do great things!!!
Yesterday, I posted about my struggle to let go and declutter and so today I figured I would just keep on confessing my struggles. Mornings are my enemy. At night I struggle to wind down from the day and end of staying up late, and quite often when I do go to bed struggle with insomnia. With both of those issues it makes morning a tough time for me. I am the type of person that can stay up all night for a youth lock-in, but when I do go to sleep I am dead. I still am able to get moving when I really have somewhere to go to or to do, but those mornings where nothing is pressing are rough. I realize how much more productive I could be in the mornings if I would get going. More time would be available for reading, time with the family, chores, and most importantly quiet time with God. It’s a struggle that I am giving over to prayer and trying to change my ways. Any advice from other non-morning people is much appreciated!
My wife has been very busy doing an early spring cleaning and decluttering around our house. She always says that where she has moved a lot over the course of her life that she has no problem with letting go of things. I kid her that she just has a cold heart, while I on the other hand admittedly struggle. While not a hoarder or a junker, when something has a sentiment to it, it’s tough for me to let it go. So, one of the things that my wife has really been working on is getting me to move on from things that I have no “Good” reason to hang on to. I am a work in progress, but slowly am relenting to her will to declutter and downsize. Hopefully as I sort through boxes of memories and hopes that I will actually use things again, I can make peace, move on, and let go. If not, well, I may be sleeping on the couch…just kidding…I hope!
As I wrote last week, my wife and I were recently able to attend an FCA Coach and Spouse Conference together. Many things from the conference have stuck out and become very real that Erin and I have been trying to apply to our marriage. One of the most striking lessons that the speaker shared was that we need to not attack each other, but identify and attack the problem together instead. This really hit home to me as I know there are so many times that I let little things and even big things cause me to jump onto my wife. Instead of getting on to her and causing division in our marriage, I was convicted that I need to slow down, identify whatever the problem is, and then with my wife attack it and solve it.
No sooner than we had left the conference was this conviction tested. My wife had accidentally backed our van against a truck in her parent’s neighborhood. Originally the owner of the truck she made contact with said there was no damage and not to worry. However, when we got back from our conference, he then said that this one small dent, that I’m not even sure is from her, is going to have to be fixed. My first reaction was to not only be upset at this man for going back on his word, but also at my wife for backing into the truck. But what good would that do? Erin already felt terrible about the incident and was near tears. If I jumped all over her and attacked her all I would be doing is tearing down someone who is already broken and needs my love and encouragement. So, stepping back I prayed about the situation, told her we are going to attack the problem together and figure out how to handle it. Since then we have just been bathing the whole problem in prayer together and praying for a miracle. Instead of me being mad at her over the incident and her being mad at me for attacking her, we are working and praying together for a solution. So far, we have not heard anything about having to pay to fix the truck and are still praying we won’t, but even if we do we are united and a situation that could cause division has brought us closer together. So, I encourage you, attack the problems in your marriage, not each other!
Tonight I start a 4 week study at my Dad’s church on Kyle Idelman’s book study “Not a Fan.” I have had the pleasure of leading this study several times for teens, but this will be the first time I have led it for adults. Please be praying for me as I challenge this group to move from being fans of Christ to true devoted followers of Christ. It’s a message that has impacted me on a personal level and so many of the teens my wife and I work with. Pray that God will use this study and give me words that come from Him to have maximum impact for His Kingdom. I am excited to see where God is going to lead and what He is going to do, so please please pray!