If you have been following this blog or just know me in general you know that this has been a crazy year for me and my family. After much prayer we felt God leading us from a ministry where we had spent the past 11 years into full time ministry with FCA. That led to not only changing ministries, but selling our house, buying a new house and moving, having to go back out on deputation to raise quite a bit more financial support and countless other changes to our family life. Then once things were finally starting to feel a bit more settled, my wife Erin was diagnosed with breast cancer and had to have a double mastectomy.
Through all these changes and events I have had to do more thinking and praying than I ever thought possible. I have truly seen where I really have no control over anything and God has control over everything. I have seen things that look like huge mistakes turn out to be God’s way of providing for future needs. It’s been a true time of faith development in my life.
Even though I have seen my faith grow and my dependence on God grow over these past few months there have been times I have definitely struggled with depression and even wondering if have made the right choices. As the uncertainty of financial support has weighed on me and just the stress of learning a new ministry and making new contacts there have been those times where I have questioned whether or not I should have done the easy thing and stay where I knew what I had to do and knew the finances would be enough. These particular doubts changed for me last Thursday as I took a cute little 6 year old out on a date.
Last Thursday my son Judah had to go to the eye doctor and so my wife asked me to take our daughter Maeven out on a little date. It was funny, because Maeven was so excited she got all dressed up for me and even put on a little “makeup” (chapstick lip balm) for the date. So while Mommy and Judah were at the eye doctor, Maeven and I went to Dunkin Donuts for our breakfast date of frozen hot chocolate and peppermint donuts. Maeven made sure we got the big comfy leather seats where we could talk comfortably as we munched on our goodies.
I started out asking her how her school year was going and about her new friends that she had made, and of course about what she wanted for Christmas. Maeven then surprised me and asked me why we had moved to Richmond this year. I told her that Mom and Dad knew God wanted us to work with FCA and Richmond was where He wanted us to do that. I then asked her if she was happy with our move or not?
One thing you need to know about my daughter is that when asked a question, she is very high truth and tells you exactly what she is thinking. With no thought at all, Maeven said, “Yes!” I then asked her why she was so happy with our move. Once again without having time to think Maeven said to me, “because you are home more Daddy and I get to spend lots of time with you!”
Right away I told her that I loved that too and did my best to fight back the urge to tear up hearing those words from my sweet girl. All those worries about whether or not I had made the right decision to transition ministries and move my family really melted away. While I am so thankful for all the years of ministry I had previously had there was so much time that I was away from my family. And I always justified it by saying that the ministry was important and that my kids were too little to notice. However, as Maeven’s moment of truth had shown me, they had noticed. They knew there dad wasn’t around as much as they would like me to be and I knew that I had missed a lot.
Within my new ministry role, I know there will be lots of ups and downs, lots of stresses and pressures, and lots of time that I am out from my family. At the same time it does afford me much more time to spend with my family and be there when they need me to be. Whether that be taking care of my wife as she recovers from here battle with breast cancer or just having that needed quality time with my kids I am truly thankful for all that God has brought us through this year and all that is to come. I am so thankful that He can use a sweet 6 year old girl to bring encouragement and joy too!