praying to parent better…

ParentingI’m a Dad and all too often I am reminded by the actions and words of my kiddos that I am still figuring this whole parenting thing out.  I have two wonderful kids.  My six year old girl is a firecracker who is full of life and does everything full speed ahead.  Sometimes this leads to her being overly persistent even after she has been told no to something and losing doesn’t always go over that well with her.  My five year old little boy is as sweet as they come, but he does struggle with some speech and learning/developmental delays.  These issues definitely give him his own struggles and issues to overcome.

Each day, I realize that each of my children have their own issues and struggles and that as unique little individuals I have to respond to them in ways to unique to each child.  My daughter is fiercely independent and my son is not.  She needs more words of affirmation and he needs more quality time.  With my daughter sometimes you have to be louder to get her attention, that same volume though can break my son’s little spirit so he needs a quieter gentler tone of correction.

The problem with dealing with my kids and meeting their individual unique needs is that I am a sinner.  As a Dad I don’t always respond the way I should.  I let my own issues, fatigue, and life in general all too often color the way I parent.  Too often my responses have more to do with me than that of what my child is doing or needs.  This is an issue that God has definitely been dealing with me about one the past few months and it has led me to a simple prayer that I pray daily, if not several times a day.  I pray and ask  God to allow me and my wife to be the type of parents that point our kids to Christ in all that we do and say, and that we show His love to them in all that we do and say.

This prayer convicting to me, because it points out the times that day I have failed to do what I’m asking.  Also, it comes to my mind when I am in the middle of some form of parenting my children and helps me slow down and think about the love, kindness, discipline, and guidance that I may be about to give.  I know I am a fallen sinner, but I want to seek my God so that my kids see Christ in me and want a deeper relationship with Him.  I never want to be the parent that breaks his kids down and drives them away from Christ.

I am praying to be a parent who is reflecting Christ well and ask that you pray for me in this area to!

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Lunch visits are great…

Today I was visited at lunch by my family.  Erin brought the kids by to hang out, run around the Rec Center to get out some energy, and to get something to eat.  Even though my kiddos were probably more excited about getting to bowl and eat some ice cream, I was just thankful for the time spent with them.  It’s great to in the middle of a long work day hear sweet little voices say “I love you.”  So, yeah, there may not be much of a reason for this post, other than to once again say how greatful I am for my wonderful family!

a day with the kiddos…

Every year on election day, my wife and some of the other ladies of KMM take a shopping day in Lexington where they try to get a jump on their Chrismas shopping.  Usually during the shopping trip my mother-in-law keeps the kids and I do a normal day of work.  This year however, my mother-in-law was unable to keep the kids and so I have the day with them.

So, I have the kiddos all ready to go for a fun day out with Dad. I have kept them both by myself numerous times at home, but today is the first time I have really ventured out with them for a fun day somewhere other than Beattyville. I am a little nervous, but hearing my daughter tell me this morning that she is soo excited to be with me today is awesome.  Even though the day hasn’t even got going yet, I am super excited for this time with the kids and know I need to make these types of days more and more of a priority!

keeping busy…

I haven’t been posting much lately and for that I apologize.  2015 has gotten off to a fast and furious start, but things are going well.  One other reason I haven’t been posting as much is due to the choice of blogging or hanging out with these great kiddos.  As you can see from the pic below, there is no choice at all.  These two cuties win every time!

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making the storms go away…

my sweet little techies...

my sweet little techies…

Don’t worry I am not writing  a blog that says how to make storms of life, literally or figuratively, go away.  No, I am writing about one of my favorite subjects my children.  Last night our family returned home from church and we got the kiddos ready to go to bed.  Once everyone was in pi’s, teeth brushed, last potty stops, had a story, and prayed, my wife and I sat down for what we thought would be a good evening of relaxing and watching some television.  About 20 minutes into the show we were watching a bad storm came through and we quickly lost electric at our house.

When the power went out the storms grew louder and the rain pounding on our house and the noise of thunder and lightning frightened both of our children to the point of screams.  As they screamed and cried loudly Erin and I divided and conquered to spend time with the kiddos helping calm them.  Between getting some good cuddles and my son deciding he was safe and thus could pull on Dad’s beard, within an hour both kids were calm and felt safe because mom and dad were there.  Finally Judah went to sleep and after another snack and another prayer time Maeven decided it was time for her to sleep.

When I finally made it through the dark to my own bedroom, I had to smile at how just being with our kids brought them so much calm and peace in the midst of a scary night.  I was glad that we could be there for them and thanked God for those two sweet blessings.  I also had to spend some time just thanking God, that we too can cry out in the night of our scary times and that He is there to comfort us and help us make it through whatever storm life is throwing at us.  He has promised to never leave me nor forsake me and that brings me so much peace and contentment.  I am constantly amazed at how God uses my own children to show me more about how much he loves us.  I am truly blessed by my God!