attack the problem together…

keep-calm-and-problem-solve-4As I wrote last week, my wife and I were recently able to attend an FCA Coach and Spouse Conference together.  Many things from the conference have stuck out and become very real that Erin and I have been trying to apply to our marriage.  One of the most striking lessons that the speaker shared was that we need to not attack each other, but identify and attack the problem together instead.  This really hit home to me as I know there are so many times that I let little things and even big things cause me to jump onto my wife.  Instead of getting on to her and causing division in our marriage, I was convicted that I need to slow down, identify whatever the problem is, and then with my wife attack it and solve it.

No sooner than we had left the conference was this conviction tested.  My wife had accidentally backed our van against a truck in her parent’s neighborhood.  Originally the owner of the truck she made contact with said there was no damage and not to worry. However, when we got back from our conference, he then said that this one small dent, that I’m not even sure is from her, is going to have to be fixed.  My first reaction was to not only be upset at this man for going back on his word, but also at my wife for backing into the truck.  But what good would that do?  Erin already felt terrible about the incident and was near tears.  If I jumped all over her and attacked her all I would be doing is tearing down someone who is already broken and needs my love and encouragement.  So, stepping back I prayed about the situation, told her we are going to attack the problem together and figure out how to handle it.  Since then we have just been bathing the whole problem in prayer together and praying for a miracle.  Instead of me being mad at her over the incident and her being mad at me for attacking her, we are working and praying together for a solution.  So far, we have not heard anything about having to pay to fix the truck and are still praying we won’t, but even if we do we are united and a situation that could cause division has brought us closer together.  So, I encourage you, attack the problems in your marriage, not each other!

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another year older…35…

   

On Wednesday, December 2, 2015 I turned the big 3-5.  To be honest it came and went with little excitement on my part.  In some ways it was fitting that it fell on a Wednesday.  You know Wednesdays are those days of the week where we feel sorta just alright and hope we make it through.  That’s sort of how I felt about getting older.  As I get older, I look back and  I am thankful and excited for all that God has blessed me with like my amazing family.  Waking up another year older and getting birthday hugs and cards from my kids was awesome.  

And as I look at 35 there is really nothing that I am depressed about, but there are areas of life I feel stalled in right now and know I want to change before 36.  For instance, I know my relationship with Christ needs to grow deeper this year.  I want to move beyond surving and start thriving.  I want to find more and more refreshment through diving deeper into the Word.  I want to seek Christ more and more for what He has for my future.  The complacency and survival mode I often find myself in is not where He wants me and not what He has planned for me.  I want to use my gifts, talents, and my whole being to bring Christ honor and glory and not be stuck in the rut of just doing ok.  

While I am excited and thankful for my family, when I get to 36 next year, I want to be found to be a much improved and still improving father and husband.  My family deserves my best and deserves an active father/husband who comes home excited and not defeated.  I want to be there for them when they need me and not just when the schedule fits.  While I pray daily for the spiritual needs for my wife and kids, I want to be more active as the spiritual leader in our family, leading them to grow deeper in their relationships with Christ.  And in the case of my son who has not yet accepted Christ, letting him know how much Jesus loves him and sharing how he to can have an awesome relationship with Christ.  

I know at 35 that I am not the Godly man, husband, and father that God has called me to be.  I don’t want to arrive at 36 with this same feeling of being in a rut.  Please pray for me this year that I will grow in my walk with Christ and be growing into the man he wants me to be.  Pray for my family that they will seen the husband and father that they need in me.  Pray for wisdom in decisions that I have to make.  Pray that when others look at me they see Christ in me.  I am serving a great God who has called me to great things in Him.  Pray that I will answer His call always…

prepping for Weekend of Champions…

Relentless_rgbThis coming weekend we will be taking 20 of our FCA students to Central Kentucky FCA’s annual Weekend of Champions.  There our students will here testimonies of various athletes, praise God with students from around the state, attend break out sessions, and hear from God’s Word from two former UK basketball players.  This year we are taking our largest group ever including many middle schoolers who have never been to an outreach like this.  In our FCA huddles this week I am going to be prepping our students for what they can expect and encouraging them to begin praying that God will use this weekend to help kick start their relationship with Him.  We are super excited to see what God is going to do and ask you to please be praying for our students this weekend!  We have a great God who is going to do great things in the lives of our students!

a new year for after school jr. bowling…

bowlinggrannystyleToday, we are starting our After School Jr. Bowling League back at the Rec Center for the 2013/2014 school year.  This is a great ministry where we go to the public schools and pick up students (k-12th grade) and bring them to the Rec Center for two hours of bowing, pizza, and a drink every Monday night after school.  During the time the students are at the Rec Center they get to have fun learning about bowling, getting hands on coaching, and just enjoying a fun friendly environment.  While the students are there we have a great opportunity to get to know them, befriend them, and share the love of Christ with them.  Many parents and grandparents come out as well and we get to develop relationships with them as well.  Please be praying for us today, especially from 4pm to 6pm!  Pray that many students will come out and join us and that we have many opportunities to share Jesus!

 

***Update***

Praising God this evening as 63 students signed up and participated in our After School Jr. Bowling League this afternoon.  There were lots of new faces and lots of fun was had by all.  Please pray that these students will keep coming back each week and bring lots of friends!

fuel ignited…

Fuel IgnitedI may have already shared something about this in the past few weeks, but I have so been blessed by it that I figured if I had, it wouldn’t hurt to share again.  Erin and I have been teaching the Teen Sunday School class at our church on Sunday mornings.  For the first few weeks I was using various teaching tools and studies that I had acquired over the past few years.  While my lessons were solid, I still felt that I needed to bring more structure to our class.  So, I began looking for a good teen Sunday School Class material to use and found “Fuel Ignited” by LifeWay.   We are currently doing Volume 1 of the series which contains twelve lessons.  The first four lessons were Biblical lessons on finding and relating to friends.  The next four lessons are on Biblical integrity, and the last four lessons of Volume 1 deal with sex and relationships.  Each weekly lesson has a video of about 10 minutes that deals with the issues we will be discussing in the lesson.  Unlike some videos which are just another person on dvd talking to the students, in this series there are mini tv show episodes that deal with the topics we are discussing and form a mini-series that continues from week to week.

My first few weeks of teaching the teens it was often really hard to hold their interest and pull discussion out of them.  However, with this material you gain the students attention right away and that leads right into discussion.  You also have a choice of lesson plans each week where you can do a discussion or an activity based lesson plan.  I personally love the discussion plan because it tends to draw more discussion and Bible searching from the students.   And each week you are also given a weekly devotional that has 7 seven days worth of mini-devotions for the students to do on the topic you are discussing that leads into next week’s topic.

Over all I am just really excited about this material, not only because of the interest it has gained with our students, but mainly because it is solid Biblical curriculum.  Each week the students are challenged to look at their walk with Christ and see if their actions and relationships are leading others towards Christ or pushing them away.  They are also challenged to grow in their relationship with Christ on a deeper level each week.

If you work in a youth group or sunday school setting with teens, I highly recommend the “Fuel Ignited” series!

bowling for the first time…

Kids bowling for the first time...

Kids bowling for the first time…

When the Rec Center was just an idea a few years back, one of the things we really wanted to do was provide a fun place with thing to do that you just couldn’t do anywhere else around us. At that time the nearest bowling alley was around an hour away, or maybe a little less depending on how you drive. Many people in our community had either rarely been bowling or never at all. The church I attended at that time took their students bowling once a year and that was really the only time I ever bowled. So, over the past few years as the Rec Center has been open with our bowling lanes one of the things I have really enjoyed is getting to see kids’ faces light up as they roll that bowling ball for the first time.

This morning I was surprised with bowling group from a small nearby Christian school. Most if not all of the students had never bowled before. I couldn’t help but smile as I saw them get excited to just knock one pin down, and even more excited if someone got a strike. Unlike some of the competitive leagues they were cheering each other on and chanting each other’s names in encouragement. It was a truly precious sight.

Our main goal here at the Rec Center is to use bowling and other recreation as a tool to bring in people for various outreaches and to build relationships to be able to share the Gospel. It’s been great to have the opportunity to do that and to see the joy in our kids faces. God has truly blessed us!

resting up…

2012 NYE LockIN FlyerMonday night is a big night for us as we get ready for the annual New Year’s Teen Lock-In at the Rec Center.  From 10 pm to 6 am we will have a many 7th-12th graders.   There will be plenty of games, prizes, bowling and cosmic bowling, but most importantly we will get to share the Gospel with them!

As I get older it definitely gets harder to recover from these all nighters.  Don’t get me wrong I can stay up all night and have a great time with the kids.  It’s just that the next few days are hard to catch up on that one night’s missed rest.  So this afternoon I tried to get a nap in and am going to try again on Tuesday to get a post lock-in nap.  I pray that by Wednesday I will be up and running full steam again!

Not complaining though, any lost sleep is well worth the time we are able to pour into the lives of our students!  If you would like to lose some sleep and come build relationships with our students, please join us New Year’s Eve at 10 pm at the Rec Center!!!