praying to parent better…

ParentingI’m a Dad and all too often I am reminded by the actions and words of my kiddos that I am still figuring this whole parenting thing out.  I have two wonderful kids.  My six year old girl is a firecracker who is full of life and does everything full speed ahead.  Sometimes this leads to her being overly persistent even after she has been told no to something and losing doesn’t always go over that well with her.  My five year old little boy is as sweet as they come, but he does struggle with some speech and learning/developmental delays.  These issues definitely give him his own struggles and issues to overcome.

Each day, I realize that each of my children have their own issues and struggles and that as unique little individuals I have to respond to them in ways to unique to each child.  My daughter is fiercely independent and my son is not.  She needs more words of affirmation and he needs more quality time.  With my daughter sometimes you have to be louder to get her attention, that same volume though can break my son’s little spirit so he needs a quieter gentler tone of correction.

The problem with dealing with my kids and meeting their individual unique needs is that I am a sinner.  As a Dad I don’t always respond the way I should.  I let my own issues, fatigue, and life in general all too often color the way I parent.  Too often my responses have more to do with me than that of what my child is doing or needs.  This is an issue that God has definitely been dealing with me about one the past few months and it has led me to a simple prayer that I pray daily, if not several times a day.  I pray and ask  God to allow me and my wife to be the type of parents that point our kids to Christ in all that we do and say, and that we show His love to them in all that we do and say.

This prayer convicting to me, because it points out the times that day I have failed to do what I’m asking.  Also, it comes to my mind when I am in the middle of some form of parenting my children and helps me slow down and think about the love, kindness, discipline, and guidance that I may be about to give.  I know I am a fallen sinner, but I want to seek my God so that my kids see Christ in me and want a deeper relationship with Him.  I never want to be the parent that breaks his kids down and drives them away from Christ.

I am praying to be a parent who is reflecting Christ well and ask that you pray for me in this area to!

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thank you for praying for our boy…

thumb_8cb2-73fb-e2ca-96a3_1024After my post yesterday about Judah’s speech troubles, Erin and I have been very overwhelmed by all the love and prayers that have been shown to us through comments, messages, texts, and calls.  Just knowing there are so many of you out there the care and are praying for our family and our sweet little boy has been so very encouraging.  Thank you so very much!

This morning Erin took our kids to the preschool that they attend once a week in Richmond, KY.  While there she was able to talk to his teacher about Judah going into speech therapy and about his expressive speech delay.  The teacher then took the time to encourage Erin about the growth she has already seen in Judah this fall at preschool.  Judah’s teacher said at the beginning of the school year when they would have free time, Judah wouldn’t interact with the kids and would go off on his own.  We know that this is partly because he is a shy little boy, but also because he struggles to communicate with other kids.  Judah’s teacher told Erin though that she has been very encouraged as he is now interacting with the other students and trying to play with everyone during free times.  Not only that, but Judah seems to really be enjoying himself!

All this to say, we thank you so much for your concern, kindness and prayers.  We know that God is going to do great things with our little boy and I look forward to sharing with you as God works in Judah’s life!

struggling with words…

love this little guy!

love this little guy!

As many of you have know or have read on here in the past, we have been concerned with my son Judah’s lack of speech.  Over the past year he has progressed slowly, but there still seems to be quite the delay compared to kids his age and where his sister was at this age.  Judah can talk and say certain things, but he has a hard time putting together sentences and expressing himself.  When we were at Disney last month, there were often times he would get overly stimulated by all the excitement, sights, and sounds.  The more stimulated he got, the more frustrated he grew because he couldn’t tell us what he was thinking and feeling.  In turn he would often act out due to all the frustration that had built up and we knew we had to seek help.

Yesterday we took Judah to get tested to see if he qualified for speech therapy.  Judah cooperated great with the speech pathologist and did all the testing.  After which we found out that he is definitely behind on his expressive speech and will be starting speech therapy next week and going weekly.  We are excited and happy to know that Judah will finally getting the help he needs and hopefully his frustration will start to ease as words come.  It’s also a blessing to know that there is no disability, but a delay that in time He will be able to overcome.  Please pray with Erin and I, that this will be a good thing and that our sweet boy Judah will soon be able to express exactly what he is thinking and feeling.

much to be thankful for…

IMG_3573This morning I have much to be thankful for!  Last week I asked everyone to be praying for our Lee County Rec Center Golf Tournament Fundraiser.  Specifically that you would pray for great weather and a great turn out for this event.  I am so happy to report that our prayers were answered and we had a beautiful event with a great turn out.  Eight teams of golfers joined us and had beautiful weather all day long.  We are so thankful for the generosity of our golfers and all our sponsors that made this event such a success!

On Monday a more personal prayer request was answered.  In early April, my son Judah began having problems walking.  The longer he walked it seemed like he would sometimes limp and then his feet/ankles would give out and he would fall.  We decided to take him to his pediatrician to find out what was wrong and after some x-rays the doctor referred us to a specialist at Shriner’s Hospital in Lexington.  The x-rays showed what our pediatrician thought were curved bones in his feet and that was his concern.  On Monday, we finally had our appointment at Shriner’s and got some very good and very relieving news.  The doctor said there is an odd shape to Judah’s big toe and the toe next to it, but it’s nothing to worry about at all.  As far as the falling it cold have been a growth spurt or a twisted ankle at the time.  As of right now there is nothing to be worried about at all.  As the doctor spoke a weight was definitely lifted off of Erin and I.  We are so thankful to hear that our sweet little boy is going to be ok and thankful that we serve a great God who is always in control!

my boy is 3 today!!!

IMG_5181Three years ago today, Erin and I were heading to Richmond, KY to the hospital.  Unlike when our daughter came things this time were scheduled out to the minute and we knew that in a few short hours we would be meeting our son.  We checked into the hospital at 9:30 am and by 1 pm our little boy had arrived.  Judah Andrew Owens was a healthy little boy weighing over 9 lbs with a full head of dark hair.

Three years later Judah still has a full head of hear only a little more blonde and a whole lot more curly.  He is truly one of the sweetest kids you could ever meet.  He loves his elephants, Winnie the Pooh, Baymax, and telling everyone how much he likes to “move it, move it!”  While he definitely get’s his looks from my wife’s side of the family there are definitely sure signs that he is my boy.  He can be stubborn, sleep through anything, loves his popcorn and pizza, and unfortunately for him has my big head that doesn’t always want to go through the neck hole of his shirts!

IMG_2628Perhaps the biggest thing that has happened this past year is the improvement in his speech.  Judah has not progressed as fast in his speech as his sister did or a lot of the other kids near his age, but he is finally starting to slowly put together his sentences.   The best sentence of all though, was a few weeks ago when I was putting him to bed and he said “Love you Dad.”

God has blessed me with an adorable, sweet, funny, cuddly, full of energy little boy.  I can’t wait to see how he is going to grow and change in year 3!

a night out with my boy…

my boy Judah

my boy Judah

Yesterday, Judah awoke to another day of being sick and generally not doing well.  After 4 days of us trying to help him feel better we decided it was time for him to go see the pediatrician. Unfortunately, Erin is still under the weather too and so I loaded Judah up and took him to the doctor by myself.

Our pediatrician is Richmond, KY and this was one of those rare doctor visits where we were taken right back to the room to wait to see the doctor.  I could tell Judah was a little nervous so I began to hum and sing him some of the “Gummy Bear” song.  Right in the room he started dancing and laughing.  When our doctor came in the room, Judah was still smiling and let the doctor check him out without any troubles.  We found out that Judah has been battling the flu and were told to keep giving him the same meds and making sure he has lots of rest and liquids too!

After the doctor we decided to run some shopping errands at Walmart and then get something to eat.  As we walked around Walmart I noticed he was fading and so I asked Judah how he was holding up.  Judah replied with “Daddy, Gummy Bear!” And once again started dancing in the shopping cart.  We ended up leaving Walmart and making it a true redneck trip by hitting White Castle for supper.   Judah loved his Chicken Rings and french fries.  As we drove home he kept talking to me about his fries and rings and how much he liked them.

Even though he was sick and feeling pretty rough, Judah was still a happy little guy.  Don’t get me wrong there are times when he can be a stinker, but overall God has blessed us with a very easy going and happy little boy.  I don’t get a ton of time where it’s just me and him, so when I do I take full advantage of it.  I am thankful for both my kids and love night’s where I can just be Daddy and hope Judah gets over the flue soon!

Photo Friday – December 12, 2009

I know if you are friends with me on Facebook or Instagram you have probably seen the picture below already.  However, I love and am so blessed by the two guys with me in this picture I wanted to share it again.   I am blessed to have such a Godly father who loved me and shared Jesus with me.   I am also blessed to have such a great son, and I pray that I will be as good of a dad as my father and reflect Jesus to Judah as well!

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